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Lead with what you love
We all have things in our life, and more particularly, our work, that we are less than fond of. Those things that drive us crazy and often bring out the worst of procrastinators in ourselves. I may sound like a bit of a jerk for saying this, but I barely have a procrastinating bone in my body. I am simply too task oriented. Nothing is more satisfying to me than getting things crossed off of my To Do list. When I was in elementary school, every Monday night I could be found powering through my weekly homework. I loved to get everything done and out of the way so that I could have the rest of the week to myself.
this is what a successful day looks like to me
If only life was still so simple. I am still that task oriented, in fact I've likely gotten more so with time. However, the tasks at hand are far more time consuming that my elementary math homework. I first got familiar with my procrastinating side when I was in college, and it has grown into my work life around certain things I don't exactly love.
Are their parts about your work that you can't stand? My nemesis is drafting e-mail marketing content. I do it very often in my line of work, and I'm actually fairly good at it. But it is monotonous. And boring. Which is why I can't stand it, and often avoid it like the plague.
Obviously, work isn't the only time that I encounter things like this. As much as I love working out, there are elements of my weekly training regime I cannot stand. When it comes to the gym, cardio is not exactly my friend. I would take weight training any day over a treadmill. But it is an essential part of me maintaining my progress and overall health. And I love being in shape. More than that I love the energy cardio gives me, so that I cannot only run in the gym, but I have the stamina to chase around my son in my daily life.
Recently I have been thinking a lot about obstacles, particularly the ones we create for ourselves. Whether it's email marketing content, or folding laundry, or 30 minutes on the stairmaster, there are things in life that we make more daunting because of the way we hype them up, often negatively, in our own heads. One of my goals for this year, and hopefully for many years to come, is to increase the positivity in my life. One of the best ways I know how to do this is by changing my perspective.
When it comes to the obstacles or things we dislike, I have found that leading with what I love gives me the energy and fulfillment I need that makes diving into those other tasks much more tolerable. Whether it is in work, or at home, or in the gym, there are all things that we love and absolutely shine at. At work, for me, it is killing it on a really successful partner call. At home it is cooking a deliciously healthy meal, which is doubly better if my kiddo devours it. At the gym, it has always been a brutally hard and powerful leg workout.
So you know what I do? I start with those things first. Doing what I love pumps me up and makes me feel driven to accomplish just about anything else that comes my way. Some may think this sounds a little backwards, getting your reward first with the challenge after. However, it is all about the shift in perspective. Leading with what you love gives you satisfaction in success, and the enjoyment that comes from that will overpower and in turn help you overcome the negative sentiments that you may harbor for some of the other tasks at hand.
My challenge to you is to ask yourself this: What do I truly love doing? Think about it in the context of your work, your home life, your hobbies...anywhere it is applicable. And then begin your endeavors with those things, and watch and see the outcomes and attitude you reap in reward even when you are working away at something you don't typically enjoy. After all, life is too short to dwell on things that make you unhappy or frustrated. Why not shift your priorities to more of what you love? You might just be surprised how your perspective will follow suit.